Perfectionism Feeds Food Addiction

As a lot a long time I accepted the monster of perfectionism. I had no idea that this thing was not a part of my personality, but rather a dangerous way of living that could destroy my life. I never suspected that perfectionism was one of the key reasons that I coulded my eating disorder.

In the world of a perfectionist "good enough" doesn't exist. For a perfectionist there has simply no such thing as a good enough relationship, a good enough house, a good enough weight, a good enough grade, a good enough dinner or a good enough performance. Everything has to be perfect or a perfectionist will have none of it.

This is a very dangerous way of living:
First "perfection" doesn't exist. Everybody has another "perfect" and what is perfect for me might not be perfect for you at all. Secondly, chasing perfection can rob you of peace, relationships and so many wonderful things and experiences that doesn't fit into your "perfect" box.

So if you are reaching for a perfect diet, you will never be satisfied with anything short of starvation. If you are only satisfied with the perfect exercise, you'll rather do nothing. If you can not fit into your number 2 jeans, you will rather stay home, watch TV, eat and feel miserable.

Believe me, I've been there, and it's no way to live. I found out along the way, after struggling with eating disorder and food addiction for many years, that CONSISTENCY is crucial in breaking free from a food struggle. It wasn't so important how I did some things, but rather that I got it done and I kept at it that broke the back of eating disorders.

I had to decided that my body was "good enough" to treat it well and have some fun.

I had to decide that eating healthy and losing slowly was "good enough"

I had to decide that going to the gym a few times a week and pacing myself was "good enough"

I had to make peace with the fact that I will slip-up, but that making mistakes was still "good enough"?

In the end I came to the conclusion that reaching for perfection will keep me from consistency forever. The two never meet. So if I really wanted to break free from eating disorders, I had to let go of the notion of perfection, and puzzle out how to live with "good enough".
As a Christian you might have bought into the lie that perfection equals holiness. This is far from the truth.

God commands us to strive for Holiness and this exhausts as a pursuit for excellence, which can in some instances be translated as perfection. However, the goal of Holiness is to please God and to become more like Him. This pursuit begets Love, Peace, Joy and every other part of the Fruit of the Spirit in our lives. This pursuit will end in heaven, and it brings lasting change in us on this earth. Also: Holiness can only be achieved by the power of the Holy Ghost in us. We can't do it ourselves.

In the Pursuit of Perfection the goal is mainly pleasing ourselves and impressing others. This pursuit begets obsession, neurosis and anxiety in our lives. Also: Perfection is something we strive for in our own strength, which is limited and flawed, so the outcome is uncertain and the goal unattainable.

So, you are able to try and do everything as about exactas humanly possible and still be far from Holy.

In my course for women struggling with food, I devout a whole week explaining how perfectionism can entangle itself with food addiction. I also talk honestly about my own struggle in that area and share guidelines to help you break free from striving for something that doesn't exist.

I encourage women to take a year, remove perfectionism, replace it with consistency, and boil difference it can bring around your aliveness.